tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11922827061616813552024-03-05T00:56:24.975-05:00[ Pushing The Envelope ]Push the envelope. Watch it bend.Mandeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03261457917690621011noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1192282706161681355.post-20640216799254641902014-06-12T18:36:00.000-04:002014-06-12T18:48:51.950-04:00Beauty Isn't Measured In Pounds<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">By defining each other by body type all we're doing is tearing each other down. I thought we as a society were moving in a more accepting direction? Well here's some reality that needs to be accepted by all of us: <span style="color: #a64d79;"><b>beauty isn't measured in pounds</b></span>. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Curves don't make a women real, and being a size 0 doesn't make you any less of a women. </span><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Being "real" has absolutely nothing to do with looks and everything to do with </span><b style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span style="color: #a64d79;">character</span></b><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> and </span><b style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span style="color: #a64d79;">actions</span></b><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Whatever size you may be, <u>own it</u>. <i>Flaunt it</i>. <b><span style="color: #a64d79;">Embrace it</span></b>. We need to stop allowing society/the media to force-feed us bullshit on what we should look like, or what we should or should not be eating. Each and every one of us needs to look in the mirror and love ourselves for exactly who we are.<br /><br />I don't care how cliche I sound - it's the truth. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Your <b><span style="color: #a64d79;">personality</span></b>, your <b><span style="color: #a64d79;">actions</span></b>, your <b><span style="color: #a64d79;">character</span></b>...let THOSE be what defines you. <i>Not a fucking label on your clothes.</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Ladies, we need to stop this war on body size. I'm so sick of seeing the internet plastered with this bullshit on what size is the perfect size. How about we all stop being shallow as fuck and start getting to know people regardless of their weight?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span>Mandeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03261457917690621011noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1192282706161681355.post-57463220992561761452013-12-13T00:11:00.000-05:002013-12-13T00:12:51.371-05:00Choices, choices, choices.. <br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="color: #a64d79; font-size: large;"><b>Right v. Wrong</b></span><br />What is right for someone, may be wrong for someone else. Let me say that again.. <span style="color: #741b47; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">what is right for someone, may be wrong for someone else. </span>For some, deciding to carry out the pregnancy may be the right choice. For others, terminating the pregnancy may be the right choice. You, and <i>only you</i> can decide what is the right <b><span style="color: #741b47;">choice</span></b> for you. It's quite simple. If you don't agree with abortion, don't have an abortion. <span style="font-size: x-small;">(Same goes for everything else..guns, marriage, religion etc.) </span>Just because you don't agree with it does not make it wrong. Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs, that's the beauty of the USA.<br /><br /><b style="color: #a64d79;"><span style="font-size: large;">My Story</span></b><br />Some of you reading this may know, others may not. I don't keep this a secret, as I have a video on Youtube that says this for all of the internet to see. Yes, I have had an abortion. It was the <b><span style="color: #741b47;">right choice</span></b> for <i>me</i>. I was 19 years old. Financially unstable, and not emotionally mature enough to carry out a pregnancy and raise a child. I told my boyfriend at the time, and his response was that if I carried out the pregnancy he would want nothing to do with me or the child. Nothing to do with me? Okay. Nothing to do with your child? Yeah, no. I wasn't going to have MY child grow up without a father. I know what it's like growing up without a dad. Not knowing the other half of you. I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy, so why would I bring a fucking CHILD into this world knowing they wouldn't know their father?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">For those of you wondering, I had it done at 6 weeks. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">The ultrasound looked exactly like what is pictured to the right. So for those of you who will judge me, and give me shit because "you killed an innocent baby!".. please.. do tell me where there's a baby in this picture!? That's what I thought.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">About the procedure: it's not painful, it's not emotionally draining. Well, the blood work prior to the surgery is painful...but that's because I'm a little bitch about having my blood taken. Anesthesia knocks you out almost immediately, then 5-10 minutes later you wake up. Like nothing even happened. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Some people regret their decision, I do not. Would I have another abortion? No. I'm in a different place in my life now, and am much more careful about knowing where a guy stands on children before I jump in bed with him. I would also like to clarify my own personal opinion: I do not agree with late-term abortions. Once the fetus has reached the point of being able to survive on it's own outside of the womb...that's when I consider it a baby. </span><br />
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Mandeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03261457917690621011noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1192282706161681355.post-13393338456995726612013-11-30T18:16:00.001-05:002013-11-30T18:16:20.780-05:00Defining Love<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I was recently asked by someone if I loved them. Love means different things to different people, so I thought I'd share with you all how I define love, and what it means to me. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span><span style="color: #a64d79; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><b>ACCEPTANCE</b></span><br style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;" /><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Love starts with </span><b style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span style="color: #741b47;">acceptance</span></b><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">. Accepting someone for who they are, what they are, and all that they offer the world. Acceptance of their opinions, beliefs, lifestyle, faults, flaws, character. Now they may be different from yours, and you may not agree with them, but that's okay. Acceptance is just that; doesn't mean agreeing. </span><br style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;" /><br style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;" /><span style="color: #a64d79; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><b>COMPASSION</b></span><br style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;" /><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Showing</span><b style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span style="color: #a64d79;"> </span><span style="color: #741b47;">genuine kindness and concern</span></b><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> for others. It's not just an "</span><i style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I'm so sorry..</i><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">" or a "</span><i style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Let me know if you need anything..</i><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">" It's a "</span><i style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Is there anything I can do for you?</i><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">" "</span><i style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">What can I do to make this easier for you?</i><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">" "</span><i style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">What can I do so <u>we</u> can get through this?</i><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">" It's not about dropping condolences because it seems appropriate, it's about actually helping someone work through their struggles. Being there for them. Letting them know that </span><i style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">they are not alone in their struggles</i><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">. Sometimes, just sitting with them in silence is all it takes. </span><b style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span style="color: #741b47;">Silence</span></b><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> can speak </span><i style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">multitudes more</i><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> than words.</span><i style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> </i><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><i style="color: #741b47; font-weight: bold;">Your time is the most valuable thing you can give someone.</i></span><div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">There's so much more depth to trusting someone than just trusting them that they won't cheat on you. Instilling your trust goes far beyond that. <b><span style="color: #741b47;">Real trust</span></b> is being able to give someone your heart and having <b><span style="color: #741b47;">faith</span></b> they won't destroy it. </span><br /><br /><b style="color: #a64d79; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: x-large;">& EVERYTHING </b><span style="color: #a64d79; font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;"><b>IN BETWEEN</b></span><br /><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">When you love someone, you support them in all they do and aspire to accomplish. You stick with them through thick and thin. When shit starts to hit the fan, you don't go running the other way..you work through it and get past it. You lift them up when they're down. You don't hold their mistakes against them, nor their past. When you love someone and you're with them, there's nowhere you'd rather be than in that moment. You care about their well being, their health, and their happiness...even if it doesn't include you.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Of course there's so much more I could add, but that's my overall view on love. Oh, and the answer to the question I mentioned at the beginning of this post? <b><i><span style="color: #741b47;">Yes.</span></i></b></span><br /><br /></div>
Mandeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03261457917690621011noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1192282706161681355.post-70674611814809819052013-11-25T22:37:00.002-05:002013-11-25T22:43:35.934-05:00Letting Go<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEijGBkpRIordDcCz1nIMJc_LX5YNRlkBDWf7-JnaQ1w4ycayMPNBZLKkeoAVQgw4ANxFfe81vxXsJxRY6HebA6NIDByFUTYIxDS23ekuNWLpKSBw_5LtjQRPkns5LMBZmEV7EcTHJsOo6_A/s1600/quote2.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEijGBkpRIordDcCz1nIMJc_LX5YNRlkBDWf7-JnaQ1w4ycayMPNBZLKkeoAVQgw4ANxFfe81vxXsJxRY6HebA6NIDByFUTYIxDS23ekuNWLpKSBw_5LtjQRPkns5LMBZmEV7EcTHJsOo6_A/s200/quote2.jpg" width="200" /></a><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">This is something we all have to experience. Learning to let go, to move on. </span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">When something that was a colossal part of your life ends, it may very well seem as if the world has ended. When you put so much of yourself into someone else, it feels like a piece of you is missing. Here's some good news, it's not the end of the world, and you will move past feeling empty. </span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Like I've previously stated in "</span><a href="http://speiraexo.blogspot.com/2013/11/cutting-your-losses.html" style="font-size: small;">Cutting Your Losses</a><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">": you are not your relationship. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /><span style="color: #a64d79; font-size: large;"><b>Cutting Contact</b></span><br />This is a lot easier said than done. It will be really tempting to shoot them a text, or look at their Facebook/Twitter to see what they're up to. See how their life is going without you in it. Doing so will only cause you despair. Delete their number from your phone. If you have it memorized, block their number. Doing this is crucial, because it's symbolic. It's a little step towards letting yourself move on. Same goes for deleting them from your friend list on Facebook. You can't move on if you're obsessing over what they're doing. If their Facebook is public, block them. You should also make your friends and/or family aware that you don't want updates on this person.<br /><br /><b style="color: #a64d79; font-size: x-large;">Time</b><br />Time really does heal all wounds. Some days are tougher than others, but eventually it gets easier. Trust me on this. Regardless of how intense your relationship was, <b><span style="color: #741b47;">IT WILL GET EASIER IN TIME.</span></b> For some it may take weeks, others months. You'll start noticing you think about them less, you won't check up on them as much (if you haven't deleted their number/Facebook), and eventually you won't care if they start a new relationship with someone. There will come a point where you are content and happy for them, and you won't have any bitterness towards them.<br /><br />The hardest part of letting go, in my opinion, is having memories replay in your head. Thinking about all the good times that were shared. It's okay to miss those memories, but you shouldn't be living in the past. Go out and create new memories. Don't trip over what's behind you. If you're constantly living in the past, the present passes you right by. Once you learn to live in the present, life becomes so much more enjoyable. You start to become a lot happier. </span><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Understand that life is beautiful. Understand that negativity attracts more negativity into your life. You need to maintain positive thoughts, and positive things will come your way. </span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /><br /><span style="color: #a64d79; font-size: large;"><b>Don't Hold Back</b></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">While you're in the process of moving on from your previous relationship, or had just gotten over one, and you happen to come across someone you develop feelings for..don't hold back. Don't limit yourself. It's also really important that you <span style="color: #741b47; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">don't compare this person to your ex. </span>Everyone is different. Every relationship is different. You may find it difficult, if not impossible to open yourself back up to someone else. You don't want to get hurt again. You can't bare the thought of someone causing you more pain, so you build walls to protect yourself. Building these walls can actually hurt you in the end. You're denying yourself the love and appreciation you deserve. If someone can see the beauty in you, even when you're broken, they're worth it. If someone is willing to put in the effort to break down your walls, they're worth it. They're worth you being vulnerable again. Remember, everyone is different. Just because someone else hurt you, it doesn't mean another person will. This is where I get to say<span style="color: #741b47; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"> good things fall apart so better things can fall together. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: #a64d79; font-size: large;"><b>Music</b></span><br />This may be the most obvious thing to some, but <b><span style="color: #741b47;">music</span></b> really does help heal. The music we listen to at a given time is a reflection of our moods. Lyrics really do say everything we can't and put our feelings into words. I've compiled a small list of songs that have personally helped me in the process of moving on, and I hope they help you in the way they have helped me.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XTtFgfl0geo">All That Remains - Hold On</a><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4kpn3V_Cnhg">A Perfect Circle - Passive</a><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q-3X8brcVwM">A Perfect Circle - 3 Libras</a><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4UEWbTxmG9o">Alanis Morissette - You Oughta Know</a><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OIQlXBUdi1s">Atreyu - My Fork In The Road (Your Knife In My Back)</a><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jjMJOTTmaa4">Blood For Blood - So Common, So Cheap</a><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LBmeLN9aHUs">Close To Home - Count The Ways</a><br />Five Finger Death Punch - <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-GZQeDpIMdk">Succubus</a> | <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eOK30w4I4Dc">Hate Me</a><br /><span style="font-size: x-small;">(Same song, different version/title. I prefer "Hate Me")</span><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gWRISdwHuwY">The Fray - Over My Head (Cable Car)</a></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gnVkYjEbe8M">Rascal Flatts - What Hurts The Most</a></span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1m8GSnIkxPM">Sara Evans - A Little Bit Stronger</a><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jzmquf9YCqk">Senses Fail - Choke On This</a><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-AaMPjhtz8w">Silverstein -Apologize</a><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vKdPffpsPKI">Smashing Pumpkins - Disarm</a><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ymUTWzsoiIg">Sum 41 - Pieces </a><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=44z8p0vv_X0">Stone Sour - Blotter</a><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t1cJ6H0EJX0">Stone Sour - Orchids</a></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Feel free to leave a comment with songs that you listen to that have helped you.<br /><br />End this on a less serious note:</span><br />
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Mandeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03261457917690621011noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1192282706161681355.post-68746716844845741182013-11-22T18:20:00.000-05:002013-11-22T18:52:42.460-05:00Cutting Your Losses<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">This is something I've seen time and time again. I admit I've done it, once. I learned from my experience, and won't repeat the same mistake twice. It blows my mind that some people will do this to themselves more than once. Staying in a bad relationship.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /><span style="color: #a64d79; font-size: large;"><b>Good v. Bad</b></span><br />If I had a dollar for each time I gave this advice to someone I wouldn't need to work. <span style="color: #741b47; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">If the bad outweighs the good, end it. </span>Every type of relationship will go through trouble, but it should not be a constant occurrence. Some days will be tougher than others, some arguments will last hours, some days. If these rough times happen more often than not, it's time to start assessing your relationship. You should radiate happiness when you're with your partner, and when you talk about them. If you're constantly feeling miserable around them, or only talk about the negative stuff when they get brought up in conversation, shouldn't that be a red flag as to end things?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">One huge reason I've noticed as to why people stay in their relationships that cause them nothing but misery is because they are <i>comfortable</i> with this person. One of the most basic human needs according to </span><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Maslow</a><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> is </span><span style="color: #741b47; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b>security</b></span><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">. When you've been with someone for a long time, you grow attached to them, and feel secure around them. Once someone loses that security, they also lose their need for belonging, their self-esteem, and their self-actualization. This is true for losing any sense of security whether it be employment, health, etc. We revert back to building from the ground up, which starts with physiological needs. It's tough letting go of something that made you feel safe and secure. Here's the good news: <i>everything gets easier in time</i>. Find security in the realization that you had a life prior to your relationship. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Understanding you had a life prior to your relationship is the key to getting your independence back. Relying on yourself for your own happiness, and having your sense of self-worth come from within. Once you're secure in your relationship, you start to become <b><span style="color: #741b47;">co-dependent</span></b>. You rely on your partner for your happiness, your relationship starts to define who you are. You lose yourself. Keep this in mind: <span style="color: #741b47; font-weight: bold;">you are not your relationship. </span><i>You had a life before it, you'll have a life after it.</i> It'll feel damn good to have your independence back. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><b style="color: #a64d79; font-size: x-large;">The Leash</b><br />Oh. My. God. The metaphoric leash. The most annoying thing of all. If your partner is constantly calling/texting you, always wondering where you are, who you're with..it needs to end. I can't stress this enough. If they're always up your ass and down your throat, they don't trust you. A relationship without trust is no relationship at all. Not only are you constantly interrogated, but they pull the leash even tighter trying to control you. They try to control who you're friends with, who you talk to. One of the worst cases I've seen is they try to control where their partner works. It blows my mind that people stay in these situations. I could write an entire post on this matter alone.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Nobody deserves to go through life always miserable. Especially because of someone else. If your relationship brings you more misery than joy, move on. Let go. <b><span style="color: #741b47;">Cut your losses.</span></b> A relationship should not consume your life. Don't let your happiness depend on anything but you.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">If there's anything you take away from this post, let it be this:<br /><b><span style="color: #741b47;">If the bad outweighs the good, <i>end it.</i></span></b></span>Mandeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03261457917690621011noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1192282706161681355.post-68990935433739831642013-11-18T15:07:00.000-05:002013-11-18T22:06:49.887-05:00What Women Want<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">Women just want to be appreciated and fucked well.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: #a64d79; font-size: large;"><b>Appreciation</b></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Even the smallest of things matter. Unless it's the size of your penis, then you're REALLY going to have to work at the fucking part. We don't need a grand gesture. Save that shit for when you're gonna propose.<br /><br />Show us you appreciate us, don't just tell us.<br /><br />You can show us by numerous acts.<span style="color: #c27ba0;"> <b>Listening</b></span>. Listening without interruptions. When you ask us "How was your day?", actually mean it & let us tell you all the details about our day, don't just settle for a one-word response. In fact, rephrase your question. Something more along the lines of "What was the best part about your day?"<br /><br />Listening ties in with being <span style="color: #c27ba0;"><b>interested</b></span>. You first have to be interested in what we have to say in order to listen to us. Showing interest in our days activities, mishaps, and adventures goes a long way on the appreciation spectrum.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Show interest. Listen. Then next comes <b><span style="color: #c27ba0;">caring</span></b>. Care about what we have to say. A way to do this is to relate to us. Paying attention to the details is a big one here. If you bring up a story that relates to a minor detail we mentioned, that shows us you were interested/listening/and caring.. again, this goes a long way.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">You don't have to shower us with gifts to show your appreciation. What was mentioned above holds more meaning than any materialistic thing you could have handed us. Save that for our birthdays and Christmas.<br /><br /><b><span style="color: #c27ba0;">Oral sex</span></b> is a great way to show us your appreciation.<br /><br /><b style="color: #a64d79;"><span style="font-size: large;">Good Sex</span></b><br /><br />If you're doing the same thrusting motion for 5 minutes...you're doing it wrong.<br /><br />If we keep making the same damn noise for the duration...you're doing it wrong.<br /><br />If our legs aren't shaking afterward...you're doing it wrong.<br /><br />If you keep it strictly vanilla...you're doing it wrong.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><br />If you don't go down on us...you're doing it wrong. (<i>See <span style="color: #a64d79;"><b>appreciation</b></span></i>.)<br /><br />If you try to stealthily change holes...have fun getting yourself off. Do you REALLY think we won't notice what you're trying to do? (No. This is NOT how you "change it up"/so it's not strictly vanilla.)<br /><br /><span style="color: #a64d79; font-size: large;"><b>The Order</b></span><br /><br />Showing appreciation before you sleep with us, will make you more desirable.<br />Sleeping with us before you show appreciation, will make us more desirable.<br />But really, as long as you show appreciation and the sex is good..you're a keeper.</span><br />
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<br />Mandeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03261457917690621011noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1192282706161681355.post-74261759461849551502013-11-08T13:58:00.000-05:002013-11-18T22:07:21.556-05:00Monotony of Monogamy <table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left; margin-right: 1em; text-align: left;"><tbody>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">That cute little idea that we're all force-fed growing up. It's the social norm. Two people who engage in sexual activity with just each other.<br />Why is this the social norm? </span><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Why do the swingers, the polygamists/polyandrous, the polyamorous, and the down right promiscuous have such a bad light shown on them? </span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">There's this impression that if your significant other wants to sleep someone else that they don't love you, or they don't find you interesting, and you may start to become so overly self-conscious that it consumes not just your relationship, but your entire life.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">My idea of an open relationship isn't about being able to sleep with other people aside from your partner. My idea of an open relationship is <b><span style="color: #a64d79;">openly communicating, openly trusting, and openly being honest.</span></b><br /><br />I suppose insecurity is the main factor of why couples don't actually have this type of conversation. The conversation that once in a while they'll bring another party into the bedroom. Or maybe switch partners for a night with another couple they're friends with.<br /><br />The reason why people cheat is becaus<span style="background-color: white;">e <b><span style="color: #a64d79;">monogamy is monotonous</span></b></span><span style="color: #a64d79;">.</span> We need variety in our lives. Our diets consist of variety, our cars consist of variety, our wardrobes consist of variety. Why aren't more people open to having a variety in their sex lives!?<br /><br />Just because you want to sleep with someone else, doesn't mean you don't love your partner. Just because your partner wants to sleep with someone else doesn't mean they don't love you. I personally think it helps build a stronger foundation because both parties are instilling trust in each other. Your partner expresses to you that they want to sleep with someone else. Have the conversation of how to approach it best. Wait it out. If the urge is still there within a week, 2 weeks, a month, whatever, decide what to do. Invite them to join you or maybe you've also had the urge to sleep with someone else too. You both decide it's best to switch it up for the night. Whatever the situation may be, <b><span style="color: #a64d79;">at least have a fucking conversation about it</span></b>. Be open to trying something different.<br /><br /><span style="color: #a64d79;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b>Your comfort zone is your failure zone.</b></span></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="color: #a64d79; font-size: large;"><b><br /></b></span><i><span style="color: #e06666;">Personally, I'd prefer sexual monogamy in a relationship once it progressed to engagement/marriage. Prior to that, a little mutual variety once in a while is acceptable. </span></i><br /><br />Have the conversation with your partner. If you both decide it's not something you'd do, great. At least you shared an open and honest conversation. I understand this approach may not be for everyone, for various reasons, but don't let insecurity & jealousy factor in to your reasoning. </span>Mandeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03261457917690621011noreply@blogger.com0